Wednesday, December 14, 2011

30 Things to stop doing to yourself

I found this article on someone's Facebook staus today.  If you have a good solid five minutes take the time to read this.  It is so powerful and so very true. I have learned over the past few years how life is so very short. 

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

What's on the Menu

Busy Busy Busy is all I have to say.  Trying to keep writing some posts but I am tired.  A lot of my menus will look the same because I am on Jenny Craig, Mr. Amazing had gastric bypass so he can't eat that much.  We try to make our very picky kids what they like but it's getting harder and harder.  The litttle Diva is now becoming Goldilocks!  One day she likes it they next day she doesn't.  I just can't win

Monday:  Chili and beans over rice

Tuesday:  Homeade chicken soup and grilled cheese

Wednesday:  Chicken cutlets with potato and veggies

Thursday:  Leftovers

Friday:  Finger foods.....We are having our annual Christmas party at the house for Mr. Amazing & his crew from work.  It's usually lots and lots of cocktails with lots of finger foods

Saturday:  Pizza for the kids...Mr. Amazing and I will be at his work Christmas party

Sunday:  quick meatsauce and macaroni  or maybe breakfast for dinner (fingers crossed for breakfast! lol)  Mr. Amazing does most of the cooking around here

Monday, December 5, 2011

What's on the Menu

I am so sorry for neglecting my little blog.  I have been so busy lately that I don't know if I am coming or going!  I really gotta get my act together.  We just sold our house and waiting to go into contract.  So pretty soon I am going to have to start packing.  We will be moving to someplace temporary around here first and then to Florida next summer (after my son graduates 8th grade) Mr. Amazing is going to have to stay behimd a few months to finish out his last few months of work.  I don't know what we are going to do without him!  The kids and I will melt away to nothing!  Seriously!!    He does majority of the cooking.  So I am really going to make an effort to post my menu plan every week so I could use them next year when I have to do all the cooking!  Unless the kids start to like cereal night, sandwich night and meatball!

Monday:  Roasted chicken & potatoes with steamed carrots

Tuesday:  Chicken parmesean with pasta 

Wednesday:  Stuffed pork loin, yellow rice, and steamed broccoli

Thursday:    Homeade pizza and garlic knots

Friday:  Leftovers

Saturday:    I will be at my Bunco Xmas party so Mr. Amazing will probably take kids out to dinner

Sunday:  Homeade chicken noodle soup and grill cheese

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Talking to our kids about Santa

I knew it was coming and today was the day.  My little Diva is 9.  She is in 4th grade and madle in love with Justin Beiber.  My husband and I were trying to hold off as long as we could telling her about Santa.  It was getting harder and harder.  The kids Is it for already knew the truth.  Whenever we were around other grown ups talking about Christmas and shopping someone would always slip and forget about the kids being around. 

As the Diva and I were getting ready to head out to the mall to get manicures she looked me deqad in the eyes and said "Is Santa real?"  I didn't want to lie so I just started asking her questions...How do you know and why do you think that....She stated that when she was with her friend yesterday shopping with her mother all her friend kept saying was " I want this and I want that f"or Christmas.  The mother just kept saying forget it and I am not spending that much"....So I told her just because your friends mother said that doesnt mean Santa isn't real.

When we got home from the mall I told Mr. Amazing about what she asked me.  We decided to tell her the truth.  We told her that there is no Santa, Easter Bunny or Tooth Fairy that we were the ones who put the presents under the tree, leave money under the pillow (even though this year I forgot until 2 days later) and that we hid the easster eggs all over the house.  We told her that would never stop because we love to see the happiness and excitement  in her face.  Just because you can't see Santa doesnt mean you can't believe.  Believing in Santa is like believing in magic.  We also reminded her that just because she knows the truth she can't blab it out to everyone and she has to be mindful of smaller children.  It was heartbreaking because she got all teary eyed.  So then I asked her what made her ask this question today.  her reply "because I seen the toys r us box and it said Justin Bieber tour bus playset!"  SO it was all my fault.  I left my amazon box in the hallway and didnt realize it actually said that on the box.